She's Trying To Find What's Missing In Herself By
Having Affairs
It's obvious that your wife has major intimacy problems probably
stemming from the childhood abuse.
She doesn't value herself much, and she's looking for value by
sleeping with other men. Instead of dealing with her problems she
uses promiscuity to help her cope. Or something like that. Whatever
she's doing it is because she doesn't love herself enough and because
of the past which has scarred her. I'm no expert but I've been in
a similar situation. I'm not going to go into detail about it, but
my experience with that is guiding my intuition to tell you that:
Your Wife Is a Walking Emergency
She should be getting counseling and getting better, and if she
can't admit that she is cheating or that she is hurting and that
she has all of these problems you need to let her know that it is
imperative that she do. Not because she is only hurting you. But
she is hurting your future child and herself when she acts this
way.
Love Yourself
I don't know if you heard this before. But you can't love someone
else if you don't love yourself. And you wife has a bundle of problems
and you knew this when you first met her. "Love" doesn't
always conquer all. You can't make someone well adjusted and happy
because you love them. Is that what you felt that you could make
her forget her past and move on?
 You
Alone Can't Help Her
She can only do that herself with the help of counselors, and professionals
who know what they are doing. But this didn't happen. And for six
years you've been married to a woman with a whole bunch of turmoil
inside. And what's worse is that you decided to have a child to
be a "proper" family.
Do you really believe that?
You're hurt and your wife is probably hurting as well. This sounds
like major damage that she has been through. It's going to take
major time to fix whatever's broken between you and inside her.
Separate
I think you should separate for a while and try to get your own
life straight and in the process tell her that she needs help and
can only help herself is she wants to.
I don't mean to burst your bubble but I don't think that she will
be any more faithful or any less distant any time soon.
Be Fair To Yourself And To The Child
You shouldn't waste your best years with her as harsh as it sounds
even though you do love her. It's not fair to you and it probably
hurts like hell to break away from her but you have to do it. For
you and the child that may be yours.
Good Luck
– Jayne
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