| Dear To Tell The Truth: Pehaps
you wish your name could be Queen for a Day? All
of the above were game shows in the 1960s. But I digress. To
the woman: You
sound unfulfilled and full of resentment yet you can't quite figure out where
to take your next big step.
To
"the King" as you so fondly refer to yourself: You
sound as though you have no idea what it takes to run a household and you seem
to have little respect for your wife. Both
of you need something that the other person doesn't sound able or willing to give.
At least not yet.
 My
prescription
My
prescription for the two of you is to take a weekend away from your home and outside
of your usual "roles" with each other. Find a cabin or a nice hotel
somewhere where there are few distractions so that you can focus on each other.
See if there is sometning there that that the two of you might recapture. A spark.
A bit of intimacy. Some good talks. Don't expect to move a mountain over night,
but at least get started on building towards a healthy future and relationship.
If that doesn't sound
feasible, head to a good therapist because your marriage is heading down the wrong
road and you are both looking for a detour sign.
Healthy
Relationships Take Effort Stop
blaming each other and put your energy into trying to repair what has gone sour
in your relationship. There is no easy "fix" for your problems. You
have lost your respect and appreciation for one another over many years. You must
find a way to get that back and feed your relationshp or its going to float to
the top of a pool like an upside down fish. Our relationships don't remain healthy
and survive on their own. It takes effort and time on the part of both parties. Your
Child Deserves Better Doesn't
your child deserve a happier and healthier home? (Doesn't the dog?) You only get
one life. Do as much as you can to salvage this marriage with some professional
help if you can. And if that doesn't seem worth your time, get out of the marriage
while you both still have some life and love in you. But remember, it's never
too late to start appreciating each other on a deeper level if you BOTH want to
make your marriage work. Attack
The Problem, Not The Symptoms Not
wanting to have sex is a side dish to not having respect and communication in
a marriage. Not wanting to allow a partner to work and/or grow outside the home
is the sign of an insecure spouse. These are symptoms, not the main problems.
Find out what the real issue is with the help of a skilled third party and start
working on these issues. It will be worth the effort. Let
us know how you do. Miss
Kitty | 
