Nice Guys Screw Up

First off, I am a nice guy.

I agree that it is very shitty of me to have cheated on her. So I screwed up once.

You are doomed to be untrustworthy until proven otherwise

Am I doomed to be an asshole because of one incident when I've done so many other nice things all my life? If you steal something (no matter how minor) are you to be considered a thief for the rest of your life?

Honest Guys Are Not Chickens

Secondly, I am very honest.

You asked for my opinion and that's exactly what you got

I asked you to give me your opinion because am not chicken to tell her. I could tell her at any moment and although I'm guessing she'd leave me I would take the good with the bad and move on. Two reasons why I haven't told her:

1. She deserves to be told in person, not over the phone.
   
   
2. Does it do anything but harm her? The only good it does is lets me clear my conscience. I love her enough that I don't want to hurt her anymore than I have to. I'd rather hold the pain inside to keep me on the straight and narrow.

Cheaters Hurt Themselves

I was not trying to hurt you; I don't know you so why would I want to?

I always held a low opinion of cheaters and nothing you can say will ever hurt me more than the fact that I went against my own beliefs and lowered my morals.

Just tell me what good does it do for her? Screw me; I don't matter anymore in the argument. What good does it do for her?

-- same guy ("Couldn't Keep It In His Pants")