I Will Try To Hold Back My Anger
I don't know how to start this or even what to say. Where do I
begin?
How about this...
I have a very low tolerance for guys that cheat on their girlfriends...
I have been cheated on and I cannot even tell you how horrific
that was in my life but I'll spare you the details of that since
I don't wish to relive that scene again. I will try to hold back
my anger and just try and answer the question.
You Are NOT Nice And Honest
Let's start with the beginning of the letter: you say you are a
"honest and nice guy". Uh-huh. I don't know too many "nice
guys" that cheat on their girlfriends...
and if you were honest you would have told your girlfriend by now
(the excuse you never asked does NOT work in this case)
Well first off, my advice is to sit down and really figure out
if you want to be in this relationship or not. Why if you really
love her would you do that to her? I know the whole "I was
horny but I really love you" excuse very well. But you also
knew what you were getting into when you started having a long distance
relationship -- and let me tell you, there's going to be many more
nights of being alone to come. But it's not an excuse to go running
to the first warm body you see.
Oh the words I would say if I knew you.
"Since I'll be leaving in a month there's not much point
in dating the new girl..."
Sounds to me like you were thinking of dating this girl while not
telling your girlfriend...so you wanted to have another relationship
with someone else? So why are you staying with your girlfriend?
Because you're leaving the new girl? Oh the words I would say if
I knew you.
If You Loved Her You Would KNOW
"I don't think I'd ever do it again because I realised
how much I love my girlfriend after"
You don't think? If you really loved your girlfriend then you would
KNOW.
That's great that you can cheat and keep a clear conscience
"I know there is no way for my girlfriend to find out
except through me. I realised I made a mistake and I'm not dwelling
on it or losing sleep and although feeling guilty I've resolved
to let that go if I stay faithful from now on."
That's great that you can cheat and keep a clear conscience with
yourself. If you aren't going to tell your girlfriend then you are
hiding a part of yourself from her. Yes it will not do any good
in telling her but what good is it constantly hiding things from
her? What kind of relationship is that?
Hiding This Would Be Horrible
My advice would be to tell her.
I know that some people might say to not tell her because then
you are just passing your guilt on to her, but I think otherwise.
To hide something like that is horrible.
Lie In Bed – Alone
It can then be up to your girlfriend if she wants to try and work
things out or move on. It's like the old phrase says "you made
your bed so go lie in it".
And try to do it alone this time.
– Dakota
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