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Should I tell her about my indiscretion?

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Dakota

You are NOT nice and honest.

I am a 24-year-old-male. Generally a very sociable, honest and nice guy.

Girlfriend is a 20 year old. I'm her second serious boyfriend. Very loyal, trustworthy and 1000 miles away. Don't know what I mean to her right now.

I've been dating my girlfriend who I met in University for 6 mo. I had to move away for summer and only saw her once in May.

I was very bored to where I moved to and recently had a secret admirer. I met her for fun and we got along. I being a male was very horny after 2+months away slept with her once.

Since I'll be leaving in a month there's not much point in dating the new girl and it was more of a lust/attraction thing than any serious relationship. I plan to tell the new girl that we need to cool it and just stay friends.

Dakota

You don't "think"? If you loved her you would know.

I don't think I'd ever do it again because I realised how much I love my girlfriend after.

I know there is no way for my girlfriend to find out except through me.

Dakota That's great that you can cheat and keep a clear conscience.

I realised I made a mistake and I'm not dwelling on it or losing sleep and although feeling guilty I've resolved to let that go if I stay faithful from now on.

Should I tell her when it won't do any good?

- Couldn't Keep It In His Pants

Male, age 24

 

Dakota Lefty

Just don't tell her that having sex proves your love

Sarah
Alex

Don't tell her

 

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