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Dear
Panel,
Honeymoon's
Over
I
have been married for 11 months. My wife has only worked
for 2 months out of the last 14. During this time I have
made it clear to her that we cannot maintain our current
lifestyle with just my salary and that she would have to
work also.
Promises,
Promises
She
seemed fine with this, but has done little to get a job.
When I bring this up we usually get in an argument which
ends with her saying that she'll get a job. But she still
hasn't got one.
Dear
Old Dad
A
couple of times she's tried to work with her dad who has
his own business, but after a week she can't take it (her
dad can be very mean) and quits. Then she forgets all about
the fact that she still needs to get a job. Or she makes
some claim like "I'll get a job after this or that".
When "this or that" happens, she's forgotten about
getting a job. Then a month or two passes and I bring the
subject up again and we get in another fight and the whole
process starts over.
In
Debt
Now
after all this time without her having a job we are extremely
broke. I just got paid and already I'm $400 in the hole
(and that's without buying important things like food).
Housecleaning
Doesn't Pay Bills
So
when I brought the subject up again recently we got into
another fight. This time she claims that she had no idea
that she needed to get a job! Then she starts saying that
I don't appreciate the cleaning that she does.
That,
of course, is totally false because, when she does clean,
I always thank her and say that the house looks great. I
often buy her little gifts or flowers when I'm out and I
see something that she might like. After this last fight
I made it clear to her that I would rather that we shared
the cleaning duties and that she went out and got a job
because we desperately need the money. She agreed to get
a job.
Phantom
Job Search
Since
then she's done no cleaning and hasn't even looked for a
job. Yesterday she said that she was going to go out and
look for a job and she didn't. She just sat home all day
and did nothing.
I
don't know what to do. Is she just using me?
--
broke and broken hearted
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