Dear
Panel, My
Role As Husband I
am a married professional man, having been a very devoted husband to a very loving
wife for 14 years. I have never had or had any thoughts of having any affairs
outside of our marriage.
I have been very proactive in my wife's successful working career, being very
supportive of her ambitious goals and always giving proactive advice in attaining
these career goals. I am deeply in love with her, with my love growing to new
heights as our marriage continues. I am also her best friend. We have 2 adoring
young children, ages 13 and 4 years. Although we have very busy work schedules,
I have always made every effort to make our marriage very special. Her
Role As Wife Angeline
is a working professional with very high ambitions. She aspires to own her own
business, and yearns to have financial success. She enjoys reading books on business
entrpreneurship and self-made millionaires. She is a very devoted mother, and
our relationship has been very passionate.
Angeline has a very strong personality, and is very independent. She is very rational
about her decision making skills, and with her strong character I know she will
be very successful in whatever she achieves. Eight-Year
Itch Our
14 years of marriage have been very good. We are best friends and very passionate
lovers. However, she confirmed with me in our eighth year of marriage that her
love for me was dwindling. We thought things would work themselves out by buying
a new home and having a second child. Once again this year, she reconfirmed that
this feeling of not committing to our marriage has once again appeared, and it
is a feeling that won't go away. Incriminating
Evidence I
also found written evidence of a strategic plan on how to leave me, with her seeking
professional advice from a seminar she attended 2 years ago giving advice on how
to leave me. She started seeing a counselor on her own without my knowledge to
help direct her on her choice of divorce or devotion. I eventually found out about
everything, and we started seeing the counselor together for a while. Then she
wanted to see the counselor on her own again, stating that the problem was her,
not myself. Six
Month Deadline She
puts the blame on the recurring feeling on her getting married so young, and not
fulfilling her ambitions (love, career, etc.) prior to marrying me. Currently,
I am left in limbo and living on thin ice until she makes this decision. She stated
she needs 3 to 6 months to make up her mind. I do not know what to do or how to
handle her, since this topic irritates her every time I want to discuss it with
her or every time I become intimate with her. I
Still Love Her I
am so deeply in love with her, but with her thinking this way, I have never been
so hurt in my life. It would be real tragic for myself if she were to leave. Until
she makes this choice of commitment or divorce, what should I do? --
lost in love | 
