| Dear lost in love,
First let me congratulate you
for your devotion to your marriage. That is becoming a rare thing to find in this
day and age. Rose-Colored
Marriage Your
letter is a little confusing to me because the picture that you paint seems so
rosy. If this is a true representation of your view of your marriage, it is no
wonder that her pronouncement has come as a surprise to you. Unhappiness
Is Not Grounds For Divorce The most important decision
to be made here is whether or not to seek divorce. It sounds to me like you have
your values in place on this issue. Marriage is "'Till death do us part."
I know of only two good grounds for divorce and just being unhappy isn't one of
them. That said, you do not have to stay unhappy. Read
About Dwindling Love I
would recommend that you read a book called, THE
FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES. The book addresses the issue of dwindling love. You
do not mention how old Angeline was when you got married but you do say that she
was young. She may be operating under a very common misperception that the thrill
and excitement of the early stages of dating will last forever. Unfortunately
this isn't so. Be
Proactive While
you do need to remain married, you do not need to just sit and wait for her decision.
Be proactive. Clearly,
you love her. Just as clearly,
she isn't feeling it. Learn
To Show Your Love That
is why you need to read
this book and learn how to show your love in a love language that she will
understand. I don't think that she is just looking for an excuse for a divorce.
If so, she would have done it long ago. But
she has been languishing for 6 years now in what may feel to her as a loveless
marriage. Buy a copy of
the book. Read it together if she is willing. If she won't, you can put the principles
into action yourself. It doesn't sound as if you have much to lose but a marriage
to gain. Sincerely, Jody | 
