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See
A Sex Therapist
Well, I'm no sex therapist,
and I do think it might be worthwhile for you to visit one. You
feel it's a problem, it recurs, and it bothers you (and your girlfriend),
so it's worth investing a little money. At worst, you'll have more
stuff to enrich your masturbatory life. At best.
My
Two Cents' Worth
That said, here's some
free advice - worth every penny.
Y'know, if you were a
woman writing what you did, the standard comments would be things
like this:
"maybe you're
too tired, after working all day, being busy the way you are,
to get excited about sex so much anymore. It's hard to find the
interest when all you want to do is go to sleep at night."
Another piece of advice
you'd get is:
"Gee, maybe
your partner doesn't excite you any more. Maybe sex is just the
same ol' boring stuff, and that's why you are more interested
in other outlets than your partner - you want something new and
exciting."
Get
Imaginative
I think that the same
advice applies to guys as well as women. Take a look at how you
schedule your life - is there really room in it for you to take
the time and to have the energy to get excited about sex? If not,
see about ways to make room.
Talk to your girlfriend
about trying new things that you both would find enjoyable; use
your (or someone else's) imagination.
 Buddy,
Here's A News Flash
All this is what a sex
therapist, or psychologist, or McCall's magazine would tell you.
But buddy, here's a news flash that most people won't talk about
out loud. It's just not the American way.
Porn-Fueled
Fantasy
Ready? Here it is. Maybe
you expect too much. How many real life people have real great,
passionate super-charged sex lives after several years together?
Or any sex lives??!! I personally know several long-term married,
committed people who haven't had sex in years. The ones you hear
about who write in to Ann Landers because they're still making passionate
love at age 80 after 55 years of wedded bliss? They're in the news
because they're so unusual. And the sex lives you see in movies
and imagine in your porn-fueled fantasies? More fantasy than reality,
I bet.
What
Are You Griping About?
Let me see...you're griping
because you love your girlfriend, she loves you, the two of you
communicate well, enjoy each other's company, you feel you have
enough sex but oh, she wants sex more than you do... jeez! Do you
realize how good you've got it? Help your girlfriend see all that
you do have, instead of concentrating on the one little thing that's
not perfect. Your glass is way more than half full. Drink up.
And if you don't like
this point, quit writing in for free advice and see a professional!
Good luck.
-- Linda
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