Dear Panel,

I am a 20 yr. old virgin who has been through a lot in the past year. I was in a long, painful relationship for 3 years, and ever since, every guy I date runs back to his ex-girlfriend.

I don't understand it. I have always been very popular, outgoing, involved. Now I find myself feeling inadequate and boring. I feel like I have nothing to offer anyone -- I am a good listener and a good advice giver, and a good friend.

But I don't know how to feel fun again. I am quiet now and reserved. What's wrong? What do I do?

-- Boring Barbara