Dear Boring Barbara,

Virginity COULD be a problem -- sex is one of the clues that tells a guy you're interested.

I am guessing that you mentioned being a 20 year old virgin because you feel your virginity is a burden and might be part of the problem. I assure you, it's not.

May The Force Be With You

Forgive me for going off on a geek tangent for a moment, but I'm going to use a Star Wars analogy. Sex is like the Force. When used for good (e.g. in an already strong relationship), it's the greatest thing in the world. When used for evil (e.g. to make somebody like you), it can turn you into a heavy-breathing, black-mask wearing tyrant who's lucky enough to sound like James Earl Jones.

Don't Dwell On Being Boring

You're a good listener, a good advice giver and a good friend. That sounds like a lot to offer.

I agree, but I do think she should be looking a little deeper into this question.

Perhaps if you go do some of those things (listen, give advice, be a friend), you won't have time to sit around and dwell on whether or not you're inadequate and boring.

The best piece of advice I've ever seen is this:

"You find friends not by trying to make people interested in you, but by being interested in people."

I don't remember where I read that. Fortune cookie, maybe?

My Ultimate Advice

Anyway, you can completely ignore everything above this line if you promise me you'll pay attention to what comes next:

GO OUT AND DO SOMETHING!

It's as simple as that. Fun's not going to find you, so you go find it.

– Mo