Reader Agatha Responds:
I disagree because no one should be required to wear some
"married uniform" as if it's mandatory. It's not.
He Got the Ring He Wanted
If she had given her husband a ring he doesn't like, should
he be expected to wear it? I think there's a sick double standard going on here. In fact, she said her
huband got EXACTLY the ring he wanted!
Men Don't Have To Wear Wedding Rings
Even though people in American society consider themselves
"modern", a married American woman is expected
to wear a ring to tell others that she is no longer available.
Not many married American MEN wear wedding rings because
there's still some stigma of jewelry being considered a feminine accessory. No one seems
to demand that men proclaim their marital status in a visual
way.
Now let's say that a wife wishes to wear her ring because
she likes jewelry. If there's a significant investment in
a piece of jewelry meant for everyday wear, then shouldn't
it be worn instead of kept in the darkness of a jewelry
box, and shouldn't it be an expression of the individual's
taste instead of an arbitrary design decision made without
her consultation? Why do you accuse her of being materialistic?
She has to look at that ring EVERY DAY!
Rude To Force a Gift
I think Jody is confusing the intent of a gift with the
sentiment of a marital symbol. Of course, it seems rude
to reject someone's gift. But isn't it also rude to expect
someone to wear something they don't like?
Superstition
And what in the world is the importance of "blessing"
jewelry and other inanimate objects? Will some horrible
curse rot her finger if she exchanges her ring? That sounds
more superstitious than religious to me.
Can you really expect someone to force themselves to stop
caring about something in order to not hurt someone else's
feelings?
Wear the jewelry you like, for goodness sake!
– Agatha
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