Dear Panel,

I have a guy that keeps following me and asking me out. I don't want to hurt him, but I want him to leave me alone.

What do I do?

Lefty Answers:

Tell him:

"I've learned through surfing Love & Learn that males are conditioned to follow girls around and beg and plead with them for dates.

"Lefty says that I should break this habit by being very firm and the male will not feel hurt.

"Good-bye."

Dear Panel,

Lefty Answers:

I disagree. Dont let restaining orders or dads or brothers or boyfriends keep u away. Just keep trying, because u cant be ignored. -- the conquerer

Ask him if knows what "break up" means.

Dear Panel,

My name is Juan and I know this girl and she says she only wants me as a friend.

Do you think there is anything I can do to let her fall in love with me?

And I just want to point out: I really do love her!

Lefty Answers:

How can you love her so much when she is trying to dump you?

Dear Panel,

How do I know if a guy loves me so much?

Lefty Answers:

According to recent email: if he stalks you.

But I don't agree.

Dear Panel,

Although I look allright I can't find a boyfriend.

Am I sending out the wrong signals or something?

Lefty Answers:

Depends. Define "allright".

Dear Panel,

Well, I meet this guy who has a girlfriend for 3 years and a baby and he flirts every day with me and tells me that it's okay to go visit him in his job.

Should I take this seriously or just forget him even though I like him and he acts as he likes me?

Lefty Answers:

Don't you think it might be easy to find someone to flirt with who's not a complete loser?

Dear Panel,

I saw another woman initiate a kiss towards my husband. He didn't push her away.

Am I justified with my anger? Can I trust him now?

Lefty Answers:

My name is Torin and my mom's name is Catherine, and I think you're silly! :)

Depends. Did he look surprised?

Dear Panel,

I was wondering about your thoughts on this:

Do you think that open communication is a necessity in a healthy relationship/marriage? Why or why not?

Lefty Answers:

But then, neither are extramarital affairs.

Open communication about extramarital affairs is never that healthy.

Dear Panel,

Is it all right to pursue a lady who already has a boyfriend?

Lefty Answers:

I gotta say, I love this guy's answers. How I wish everyone else I knew could be so succinct and to the point! :)

Not if there are any women left in the world who do not have boyfriends.

Dear Panel,

I believe my boyfriend is cheating on me. What should I do?!

Lefty Answers:

Find out.

Dear Panel,

My wife has a tendency of getting carried away in conversation sometimes. She starts to talk more loudly and quickly and she can go on forever.

I feel like I am being held hostage until she is done. When I try to chime in, she gets totally offended. She thinks I should be honored to hear her out.

How can I get her to ease up without offending her ?

Lefty Answers:

Tell her you get aroused by the sound of her voice and start kissing her.

She'll stop talking.

Dear Panel,

How do you keep arguments on a conversation level, without triggering a touchy nerve?

Lefty Answers:

Keep the subject off religion, politics, relationships, feelings and anything personal.

Dear Panel,

How do you know when to call it quits when you are nonstop fighting with your boyfriend?

Lefty Answers:

You figure it out. I just did.

Dear Panel,

My girlfriend wants to know why I love her. What would be a way of explaining?

Lefty Answers:

Beats me. Why don't you practice by telling us?

Dear Panel,

How can I show my boyfriend that I love him ?

Lefty Answers:

I just don't get it. -- Miss Piggy

See above.

Dear Panel,

I love this girl, but I can't tell her that. What should I do?

Lefty Answers:

Don't tell her.

Dear Panel,

I have fallen in love with my very best friend. He and I have made love together a number of times, but have never talked about our feelings for each other.

A lot of people who know us always tell us we have the perfect thing right in front of our faces and we are too blind to see it.

I am scared to tell him how I feel for fear of losing the friendship we have.

What should I do?

Lefty Answers:

agree with the way Lefty answers, it's straight forward, simple and makes a hellava lot of sense. Some people do need simple things to be pointed out to them, though. -- Miss D

Honey, you ain't "just friends" if you've been doing the big number. Breathe some morning air here, and figure out what you want.

Dear Panel,

I fell in love with a good friend of mine. I told him this but he said that he likes me a lot but isn't in love with me. What do I have to do? Can I let him fall in love with me?

Lefty Answers:

Tell him that he will fall in love with you in 3 months.

Hey, prophecies and expectations work in the stock market; it's worth a try.

Dear Panel,

What do I do if I catch my boyfriend smoking pot again, after he promised me so many times he will stop?

Lefty Answers:

Stick your ultimatum in his bong.