Dear John,

Don't Be A Father Figure

Wow, this is a tough question for me to answer since I am also a teenager.

But first I have to ask: when you said he feels like he's losing his mother, has his mother had a relationship before where she put all her energy into the guy and made her son feel left out? Because if that's the case, then maybe he understandably doesn't want a father figure right now.

The Three of You Should Talk

No, she should talk alone with her son and work it out.

But if he just doesn't want his mom dating anyone, then I think all three of you should sit down and talk about why he feels this way.

Consider Ending Things

I can see why you are empathizing with the son, but she has a right to bring someone new into the family.

If the son gives you two an ultimatum then maybe you both should consider going different ways because as long as he is living with you both, no one will be happy. And who wants to be in that kind of marriage?

Yes, definitely, his fiancée's priority should be her son...but what kind of an example is she setting if she allows her son to make her decisions for her??

Not to mention, your fiancée's first priority should be her son until he turns eighteen.

Wait For Him To Grow Up

Why should she have to wait until he's 18 to have a relationship? She shouldn't accept her son's ultimatums.

If this relationship can't work out, but you two are very much in love with each other, maybe you guys could just date for the next five years and then get married once her son is an adult himself.

Well best of luck in whatever you and your fiancée choose to do.

Sincerely,

Nikki