None of Their Parents' Business

To me, their relationship is just that: their relationship! It really is none of the parent's business! They don't seem that healthy, anyway, so what is he losing?

I have been in relationships where I hung out with the family all the time, and I agree that if the family is nice to you it's fine. But does he really think the family will be nice to him? I don't!

So enjoy this time of not having their negative influence. You can meet them when she introduces you as her fiancé. Then they can't accuse you of just using their "little girl", and you know absolutely where you stand with your girlfriend, and can with a clear conscience stand up to any garbage they throw at you.

Trust that she is doing what is best. You say she is a strong woman. If she is scared, she may have a good reason!!

Maybe Her Parents Aren't Worth Meeting

Maybe she has a good reason for not wanting him to meet them. If she is crying all the time after getting off the phone with them, they don't sound too loving. Maybe they are embarrassing, bigoted jerks!! Maybe they are antiquated and don't want her to date until she's done with college, and she is afraid they'll stop paying if she doesn't follow their rules.

I say parents-schmarents, if you're grown, and you love her, how can her family be a make or break situation?

If She's Strong and Intelligent, Trust Her on This

We don't know these parents, and since he doesn't either, we don't know what's up with them. What we do know is that she is a strong, intelligent, loving woman who is regularly reduced to tears by her parents. Why isn't anyone else recognizing how telling that is?

Maybe she is trying to protect him from their emotional abuse. She may not be doing what he wants, but sometimes not getting what you want is a blessing! He describes her as a wonderful, strong, loving, intelligent woman. If all this is true, she has very good reasons for her actions.

She needs his trust and support on this issue. She's been with him for 2 years! How could anyone think she's ashamed of him? Or not serious? It's the parents she is trying to distance herself from, not him. I think he should thank his lucky stars he doesn't have to deal with them.

– Patra