Dear "fell in love with a perv",

Wow! That's a really tough situation, and I think you should seek professional advice on this one. But I can offer my thoughts on the situation, and some encouragement.

God Can Change Him

I believe that through the love of Christ and the power of God through a personal relationship with Him, people can change in dramatic ways.

Don't preach until you've walked a mile in my shoes. There is NO reason to stay with a pervert. Period.

I have seen it happen. Nothing is too hard for God!

The Bible says that His strength is made perfect in our weakness, if we reach out to Him. It also says that when you commit your life to Christ and accept Him into your life, "the old has passed away and all things become new."

So, the first thing I would advise you to do is to give your life to Christ (if you haven't already) and encourage your husband to do the same. That fresh start in life will bring hope to your situation and the power to change. You may also be able to receive counseling through a local church.

Stay With Him And Support Him

The bottom line is, I think you should stay with him. Support him in his effort to change and honor the commitment you made to stand by him, in good times and bad, by not divorcing him. Your committed love may be the extra encouragement he needs to overcome this.

Distance Him From Your Children

However, even if you do this, and commit this situation to God through prayer, you still need to protect yourself, and put some healthy distance between him and your family so that he has no opportunity to hurt your children.

Pornography Leads To Sexual Crimes

Pornography is a very dangerous and strong addiction. Studies have often linked sexual crimes to a history of pornography. Therefore, I would recommend getting some professional advice dealing with this issue to assess the potential danger to you and your children.

Take Him To a Therapist

I'm confused: you just said "Nothing is too hard for god." Then why does he need a therapist?

I would NOT take this lightly. He may have the best intentions to change his ways but this had a strong pull on him, and he needs to seek professional help to overcome it.

Ask Him To Move Out

I'm confused again; earlier you said "Stay with him". Now you say "Have him move out."

I would strongly consider asking him to temporarily move out until you have evidence of his progress. This will create an even greater sense of urgency and perhaps motivate him even more to seek help.

– Hope