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Jeannie
responds:
She did!
She met someone who she believed was unavailable, which
sounds like exactly what she wanted...that's the problem!
In this
situation, [Miss D] truly has no one to blame but herself!
Accept
the Consequences of Your Actions
Whenever
you get into a relationship with a married man, you have
to accept the consequences of what might happen if you are
found out. Whether or not you are the reason his wife left
him, now you have to face the consequences of what you've
done. Whether or not she knows about you, HE did...and does.
He probably
fully believed that you would be there for him when she
left...perhaps it even gave him a different perspective
on her leaving. Just because you assume he is unavailable
by way of marriage, doesn't mean he thought that is what
you were interested in.
You
Led Him On
So now he
wants more than you do? Sounds like you were awfully comfortable
with this man who couldn't give you a full relationship..as
long as that is how it stayed. Now he expects more from
you, that I'm assuming you have led him to believe he can
expect.
Tell
Him the Truth
First of
all, you need to be straight with him...and straight with
yourself. Most people who get involved with a married partner
aren't truly looking for a solid relationship...he should
realize that about you, and so should you. Don't string
him along...let him go, tell him the truth so he can move
on with his life and make some decisions.
You
Could Be Emotionally Unavailable
As for yourself,
why were you so attracted to a married man, anyway? Figure
out inside yourself why you wanted someone unavailable...it
probably means that emotionally, somewhere you are unavailable
yourself...if you can find that and deal with it, you may
have a chance at a better relationship down the road..with
someone who is SINGLE.
-- Jeannie
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