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Jeannie
responds:
Where
Was This So-Called Willingness To Trust?
Willingness to
trust? Granted, while I do not believe this particular female
is deserving of your trust, I do believe that he wasn't
able to give it to her in any way, shape or form. Just one
question...how did you KNOW she changed her passwords??
Did she tell you, or did you attempt to check her messages
again?
Neither
of You Are Trustworthy
There are so
many red flags that I can't even figure out where to begin.
But I will tell you this...why would you even consider this
relationship worth preserving? There is such a lack of trust
between the two of you that I don't see how you can ever
find a way out of it. You can't trust her, because you've
caught her in too many lies, she can't trust you because
you have invaded her privacy. It sounds like you definitely
do not have what it takes to keep this relationship alive.
Not
Everything She Said Was a Lie
As for the lies
that you've caught her in, there is probably a VERY small
glimmer of truth in what she's told you, and she's built
the rest of those lies on top of that. She probably did
keep information from you initially because she didn't want
to create waves...but also because she herself hadn't decided
what she wanted. By making references to going to San Diego
repeatedly, you can bet that she's looking for a way to
see him and still keep you around in case it doesn't work.
Shame
On You
As for you, shame
on you for invading her privacy. Once you realized that
you couldn't trust what she told you, you should have simply
told her that you couldn't trust her. Just as you cannot
trust her word, your word is not trustworthy either.
Let
GO
You need to recognize
when it's time to let go. Confront her? Yes, and no. Don't
give her the option to lie to you...don't give yourself
the option anymore to abuse her privacy. TELL her you are
leaving, tell her why and let that be the end of it. You
are both better off with other people.
-- Jeannie
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