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Dear Lil' Bit,
I have an answer for you, but you may not like it.
First of all, let me say that for 14 (a really tough age, as I
recall) you are doing just fine. It seems that you have already
caught this guy's eye.
The Hard Part About Being 14
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Is that the only thing that stinks about 14?
How about: acne, puberty, Jr. High, no driver's license, curfew
(to name just a few)?
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Now comes the hard part: waiting him out. That's what stinks about
14, you don't want to wait for anything, and this may torture you!
But in my experience, I have always preferred being friends with
someone first anyway, so I really think you are in an excellent
position.
They Won't Last
Let's face it, at 15, his current relationship probably will not
last, especially when he is already kind of snuggling up to you.
Hasn't he given you that impression, telling you not to forget about
him?
Guys Hate "Needy"
Chances are that if you keep doing what you are doing, and don't
come off too needy (guys hate that!), you will be in just the right
spot when his current relationship ends.
Stick to a Friendship Level
For now, try to get to know him more on a friendship level. I think
your interest in him as a person will be very attractive to him.
I do have a warning, though. If this boy has a girlfriend, and
flirts with you, is that really the kind of boy you want? Put yourself
in his girlfriend's shoes (which is exactly what you are trying
to do).
Imagine the Situation Reversed
How would you feel if he was seeing you, and you saw him with his
arm around another girl? I think it would sting, to say the least.
That is exactly how she would feel if she saw you and this guy in
one of your little conversations. I know you want him, but do you
want to make an enemy in the process?
Cut the Touchy-Feely Stuff
My advice is to cut out as much of the touchy-feely stuff as you
can until he is free. Even though you do like him, it can only help
you to have him chase you a little.
– Patra
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