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Dear Worried,
Live YOUR own life.
It's Not Your Fault
Your story is heartbreaking!! I feel really bad for Amy and her
daughter. You do too, obviously, but the sins of the mother in this
case are not yours. It is not your fault that she chose to be with
an abusive, suicidal man. It's not your fault that she is choosing
the comforts of financial support over your feelings for her.
Stop Suffering for Her Sins
Bottom line, there is absolutely nothing you can do here. Your
loving support is wonderful. Your nurturing is admirable. But, you
are not her. You can not lead her life. And, in my opinion, you
should stop suffering for her sins.
You're Not Her Family
In this life the person we are most responsible for is ourselves.
Second comes, in my opinion, our families. You are choosing to make
Amy and her daughter your family; but, she is not choosing you as
her family. You deserve a person to love who shares your commitment,
and your priorities. Amy has made other choices and has to live
with those.
You Won't Win Her Back by Being Her Crutch
You will not win her back by being an emotional crutch; her priorities
are her studies and her daughter. She's getting a roof over her
head and financial support that you can't give her. Don't try...hold
on to your priorities.
Live your life for yourself. Find people to return your love.
Love,
Charlie
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