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Dear Worried in Wisconsin,
Amy's
Mess
It sounds like Amy is
confused about her feelings and may be putting some space in your
friendship right now, in light of the mess she is currently in the
middle of.
It also sounds to me
like she has a habit of bouncing around to different relationships,
based on what the other person can do for her (i.e., pay for her
bills).
I See a Pattern
You said something very
interesting in the middle of your story. You said that Amy found
another boyfriend a few weeks after breaking up with you.
Now she is repeating
this pattern by starting to stir things up with you while still
living with her current boyfriend, who she has a very strong tie
to because she is living with him and dependent on him financially.
Some women are afraid of being alone, so they jump from one relationship
to another to avoid being alone or to gain something from the new
relationship. In this case, she is gaining financial security.
Back Off
I think you need to back
off and not pursue anything for a while so that she can deal with
her current situation before jumping into another relationship.
She has a lot of growing up to do, and is probably very confused
right now.
If
You Do Reunite
Make sure that if you
get back together, it is for the right reasons (not for money or
what she wants from you, not out of fear or confusion because of
her present boyfriend, and not out of desperation of being alone).
Make sure that the relationship is right, that her feelings for
you are genuine, and that there are no strings attached -- most
importantly, strings to her current boyfriend.
Wait
for Her
If you pursue things
now while she is still living with him, you will be dragging that
complication into your relationship. He will always be an issue...
Time and a little space will be a good test of the strength of your
relationship, and her character.
-- Hope
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