Dear Miserable,

This is obviously a very complicated situation. I understand how difficult it must be to cope with the parent situation.

He Should Have Warned You

Your boyfriend SHOULD have told you about the potential problem in the very beginning so that you could have been more prepared to deal with the situation. However, the fact that he wanted to spare your feelings proves that he must care very deeply about you.

Show Them You're the Bigger Person

They ARE courteous, they treat me nice -- to my face.

I think all that can be done in this situation is for you to try as hard as possible to be kind and respectful to his parents, even if they don't extend the same courtesy to you. This will show that YOU'RE the bigger person.

You Can't Chage Them

Absolutely! You cannot change their minds at this stage.

There's nothing you can do to change them, but if you and your boyfriend are truly meant to be together, this will not matter. Never think that you are not up to his standards just because his parents are biased. After all, HE is the one you are dating, not them.

And I suspect that he wouldn't be with you unless he wanted to be. So just keep your head up high and think positive!

-- Karmela