Dear Panel,

I am an 18 year old college guy who has been in love with Tina for over a year.

She is an 18 year old college girl who I love with all my heart.

F Boy is an 18 year old college guy who used to date Tina, and recently began working with her.

Tina went back to work at a place where she used to work, and also a place where her ex F Boy also worked. To make a long story short, after a few weeks of being together day in and day out at work, they kissed.

She still hasn't been single.

After that kiss, Tina broke up with me, but we still "dated". She said that she had never really been single, and she wanted to see what it was like. She said a lot of it was to make sure that I was "the one".

Well, during that time she realized that I was "the one" and she never wanted to talk to F Boy ever again because he had tricked her into thinking she felt ways that she really didn't.

But during that time, they had sex.

She Feels the Same Way About Sex

I know we weren't together, but sex means a lot more than just sex to me; it is about love. And I know her well enough to know that it is like that for her too. That's why I don't understand why she could just do it with some guy she didn't love, especially when she hadn't stopped loving me. Now I am at a tough spot, because I want to be able to move on and be happy again with her, but I don't know how to forgive her and get over what she did.

How should I forgive her and get over what she did?

-- Anonymous

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