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Dear in need of advice,
Talk
to Your Parents
Boy, that's a difficult
position to be in. My advice actually would be to talk to your parents
together. BEFORE you do anything, before you become closer and more
involved with each other than you are already.
You
Are Going To Be Family
With your parents getting
married, you have to realize that you are going to be called stepbrother
and stepsister for a reason. You are going to be considered, for
all intents and purposes, as family to each other. Without discrediting
what you feel for each other, you really have to take a look at
what it's worth...and what the consequences could be of the two
of you getting together.
You are 14 and 15 years
old, respectively...you have a long life ahead of you. In some form
or another, that life with each other is always going to be involved
as family. Your parents are getting married, and binding you to
each other in that way for as long as it shall be. Your possibility
of a relationship with her may or may not work out. But you will
always be related as step brother and sister.
She's
Worried For a Reason
A lot of this will depend
on your family. If she is worried about what they will think, she
probably has a point. This type of relationship isn't just about
the two of you, it's about your entire family. Before you take any
steps further, you really need to discuss this with your family,
and make sure that your decision is the right one to make all around.
Control Your Actions
You are going to be family,
and whether the marriage is a year away or not, you are still heading
into a difficult position.
You can't always control
your feelings, but you can control your actions. And before you
act, you need to consider your entire family and what something
like this could do to your future.
-- Jeannie
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