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Patra
responds:
I would agree
with you if they were being raised together from youth.
These 2 are in their teens.
And whether or
not they act on their feelings, they are attracted to each
other, and not in a brother and sisterly way.
I think if they
date now and get it out of their systems now, the situation
may be resolved by the time the wedding happens. If they
don't, I am afraid the feelings will get idealized in their
minds and fester for a decade or so until it explodes at
a really inappropriate time, after they have been living
as family for years. Let's face it, at 14, 6 months is a
long relationship!
Two things to consider, though.
One, besides
the fact that I think you are too young for a sexual relationship
(but if memory serves, the hormones are starting to flow),
please remember that you will have to see this person in
your home and with your family for a long, long time. I
think if you get sexual with this girl you may be very sorry.
This is one girl you won't be able to avoid if it doesn't
work out. Awkward doesn't begin to express how it will feel!
Take a really, really slow approach on the physical aspects,
even kissing. Be good friends first. After you get used
to this girl being like family to you, you may decide that
a romantic relationship doesn't feel right after all. If
you rush into a physical thing, it will make the situation
very uncomfortable for you both.
Point 2- don't
hide it from your family. If you feel the need to hide it,
I think it means you know it's wrong and have no business
doing it.
This is a tough one.
Good Luck!
Patra
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