Dear Patricia,

It's so coincidental that I have been asked to answer this question, because I just had a similar conversation with a friend of mine. She is upset because she thinks no one wants her because she is blind. I will tell you what I told her.

You Won't Appeal to Everyone

Unless you are the supermodel type (and I suspect even they have their own set of problems, not being loved for who they are inside, getting treated like they're stupid, etc.), some people will just not be interested in you.

Fewer Toads

It is not your fault, we all have to deal with this, to some extent. The more we are out of the mainstream of conventional beauty, the fewer choices we have. But look at it this way, we have to wade through fewer toads than others!

A Positive Attutude Atttracts People

I am by no means immune to the feeling that I am not attractive to as many men as I would like. But never underestimate what a positive attitude can do. I found that when I was happier and more at peace with myself, others saw that and were attracted to me more often.

Realize that you are wonderful and can emotionally provide exactly what someone has been waiting for.

Others in Wheelchairs Have Found Love

Like Aerosmith says, the light at the end of the tunnel could be you. I believe there is a lid for every pot, and if you keep your wits about you and don't despair, you will find yours. After all, other people in wheelchairs have found love, haven't they? It's not unheard of, right?

You Need To Focus On Your Value

The problem my friend has is that she thinks her blindness makes her too much of a burden for someone to love. I think her attitude is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Physical perfection is very nice, I'm sure, but don't undervalue the unique gifts you have to give.

Everyone Has Preferences

Yes, men are allowed to have preferences, but most men are too shallow.

Please remember that no matter what you look like, you will not be the type for some men. You have preferences, right? Well, men are allowed to have them, too. Don't take it personally, or as a reflection of your attractiveness, just stay out there and don't lose your patience.

Happy hunting!!

– Patra