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Dear petite,
You
SHOULD Be Running Around
Nineteen year olds should
be running around and having fun (safely, that is!) There is no
better time to meet fun people, do silly things, just hang out for
hours, etc.
Run
WITH Him
My question is -- why
can't you run around and have fun with him? I'm guessing your running
around is more of the party-all-night variety than the sleep-with-guys
variety (am I wrong?) and could easily incorporate a partner to
go out with, meet new people, etc. If it is the sleep-with-guys
kind of running around, why is he so content to wait for you?
My guess is he is secure
enough that you love him to just wait.
I
Have the Same Problem
The problem is, if you
love to have fun, you may not get it out of your system. I haven't.
We noticed a problem in our relationship when we were just a little
older than you. I was similar to you- - would want to do nothing
but be social for days or weeks on end, then would be over it and
just want to cuddle up at home.
My
Fiancé, My Friends
My fiancé is way
more even -- he can sit at home for months and go out just occasionally
during that period. We are slowly getting into a system -- he goes
out with me when I ask directly, we have a blast, and then I am
perfectly content to either hang out at home or drag my girlfriends
out the next weekend.
Does a system like that
sound good to you? Because, there is no reason you shouldn't have
fun IN a relationship. Fun is one of the major benefits of a relationship.
Just modify your schedule and possibly style for having fun.
I think you'll be fine.
Just talk to your boyfriend (ex?) about how you can get your needs
met within the relationship.
-- Judith
PS -- Leave Him If It's About Sex, Not Fun
PS -- if the fun you
are talking about has more to do with other men, you know you owe
it to your boyfriend to break it off for good.
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