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Dear Anonymous 24-year-old-with-child:
You must feel as though
you have the whole world on your shoulders and it's getting pretty
heavy right about now.
Share
the News with Your Parents
It is important to find
some way to share with your parents that you are pregnant. You are
going to need their support and love right now, as this is a tough
road to travel down alone, even if your boyfriend is along for the
ride.
My
High School Friend
When I was in high school,
my best friend became pregnant and was terrified of telling her
parents. She spent months covering her stomach and hiding in shame.
She imaged every worst-case scenario and her fear about sharing
this news with her parents became overwhelming.
She
Wished She Had Told Them Sooner
Finally she had to "confess"
the news that she was pregnant to them. Afterwards, she wished she
had done so earlier. Once her parents got over the shock, they were
there for her and helped her make decisions about herself and the
future of her baby.
My
Friend Did Not Regret the Adoption Route
In the end, she gave
up the baby up for adoption, a decision she did not regret. She
was too young to raise this baby and the father of the child was
nowhere in sight.
Questions you need to
consider:
- How serious are you
about your boyfriend?
- Is he planning to
raise this child too?
- Have you talked about
a long-term commitment?
Involve Your Boyfriend
If he is planning to
stay with you and if you two love each other, you might want to
join hands and go together to tell your parents (and his). Parenthood
is serious business. You need to have a plan in place and a support
system, not to mention plenty of diapers.
Consider all of your
options. There are many these days.
You have some very important
decisions to make. Gather feedback from those you respect, but in
the end make a decision that you alone can live with and accept.
This is imperative.
Let us know how things
turn out.
-- Miss
Kitty
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