Dear Panel,
Seven Months
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year
now, and we've been living together for seven months. Whilst
I love him deeply, over the past few months my attitude towards
him has changed dramatically.
Sex Is a Chore
Whereas once we had an exciting and varied sex
life, now the thought of touching him is the last thing on
my mind - I hate to admit it, but I no longer find him sexually
attractive and sex with him is unfulfilling and a chore -
he just doesn't 'turn me on' anymore.
He's My Best Friend
At first I would always cave in to his advances
in an attempt to make him happy, but nowadays he knows that
I'm not interested, and it makes him upset. I've considered
breaking up with him over this, but he is not only my lover
but my best friend, and I would hate to lose him.
Long-Term Commitment
I don't know what to do - I don't want to be
resigned to a relationship without sex, but I don't want to
lose my boyfriend. If I do decide to end our relationship
it will break his heart (we have a long term commitment) and
I know he will want nothing to do with me.
What should I do?
-- Clare
Everett,
Mo, Charlie,
and Petite
answer this question.
A guy who is
in the same situation:
"Why
do I refuse intimacy with my sexy girlfriend?"
For the other
side: A guy realizes that his wife is not attracted to him.
"Am
I a creep to leave her for sex?"
And
"How
do I get my wife to make whoopie?"
