Dear Clare,

Are Looks the Issue?

I don't believe that any one individual can make you completely happy. That is putting entirely too much pressure on a relationship.

The biggest mistake you can make is staying in a relationship that doesn't make you completely happy. That doesn't mean you have to give up on this one. You obviously found him attractive at one point so looks probably aren't the issue. But if they are, tell him; he wouldn't hesitate to tell you.

Extra Weight Can Affect His Health

If he let himself go and gained 50 lbs., he probably isn't as sexy as you once found him. Just approach him and tell him you are concerned about his health. If you love this guy you have to be straightforward with him.

Try Tapping Into Your Sexual Fetishes

If looks aren't the issue then it is all in your head, which is a good thing (and not your fault) because you can probably fix it. Try something different. Get him to have sex in public, or dress up (role play). Reach deep down into the depths of your sexual subconscious (you have to have some kind of fetish). Do something that is going to catch his eye and excite you.

Some Cooling Is Normal

To some point all relationships go through this. Anything that we do over and over gets boring after a while (even sex). You obviously love this guy so don't give up without a battle. But if nothing you do seems to get your interest back, you have to call it quits. If you're not 100% happy he will notice, then he won't be happy. That, my friend, is a recipe for relationship disaster.

Sincerely,

Everett