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Dear Clare,
There
Is Something Wrong Besides the Sex
I am sorry to hear you
are in this situation. I once had a similar situation. You have
to look deeper than the sexual attraction to find out where the
real problem lies. There is obviously something more going on here.
Did
You or He Change?
Suddenly, becoming unattracted
to someone for no apparent reason is highly unlikely. Did he change
in some way? Did your feelings change? Did sex become different
(not as passionate, boring, etc.,) If so, those could be the
reasons you do not feel sexually attracted to him anymore or do
not want to engage in sex with him.
Maybe
It Was Infatuation
If those things do not
apply to you then you must ask yourself do you REALLY love this
person. Maybe it was and still may be just an infatuation. That
is when you are attracted to a person, and feel you are in love
with them, then as a little time passes, you may become unattracted
to them and say to myself "What was I thinking?"
 Sexual
Attraction Springs from Love
I describe truly loving
someone as loving everything about them. I have even had situation
where the only thing that made me sexually attracted to a person
was the fact that I loved them on the inside. I loved everything
about them. Even though they had faults I could not see them, to
me their faults were not faults at all. You need to consider these
facts.
Move
On Before You Hurt Him
If you think this may
be only infatuation, then you need to move on, before this guy gets
the wrong idea. You could wind up really hurting him.
Talk
To Him
On the other hand, if
you truly love this person (willing to give him all your time, love
everything about him, make sacrifices for him,etc.), then the two
of you need to sit down and discuss this. If you really love him,
there is a deeper meaning than just not being sexually attracted
to him anymore. You need to talk to him and figure out what it is,
and try to work on it and be happy.
Good Luck!
Petite
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