Dear Walter,

Oh my gosh, where do I even begin?!!? Well, let me start off by saying that you probably aren't going to want to know what I think, but hey, I'm going to tell you anyways...let me collect my thoughts...

She Loves Only Herself

OK, let me start with this girl "Amber."  So you say she loves you and she loves him...My gut instinct tells me that she loves no one but herself.

He's tormenting HER. It's his fault for causing her depression.

Think about it.  If she really loved Max do you really think that she would cheat on him with you? And if she really loved you then why is she "tormenting" you by staying with him and moving in with him?  

I Wouldn't Have Wasted My Time

You should have stopped trying to pursue her way in the beginning when she kept brushing off your comments.  I don't know about you but when I compliment someone and they brush me off I don't bother wasting my time.  But I'll get to you later.  

What Do You Know of Their Relationship?

You're right; he doesn't know or guess because this is his first relationship.

Now my question is: how much of their relationship do you actually know? Do you know everything that was said between them? Do you know everything that was done? My guess was no you don't.  

So let's give a for instance...let's just say Amber and Max got into a fight and then she turns to her email and sees! an email from a guy thats pining for her.  Well, is she going to sit around feeling unloved or jump to the first person that shows her attention? My guess would be the jumping.  

Eating Her Cakes

Well then Max turns around and decides to be
loving again...well if she's getting so much attention without the two meeting then why stop? The phrase "you can have your cake and eat it too" is her life motto at that moment. Then you leave and you're sad.  Is she? I doubt it. If she was then she still wouldn't be with Max.

Have Fun in the Trauma Center

She sees you around from time to time...when? When it's convienent for HER...well if you like living life on the back burner where you are guaranteed to be hurt by the flame then by all means have fun in the trauma center.  But then reality comes crashing down and she becomes depressed. She doesn't know who to choose.  I can't really feel that she's upset over choosing more than she's upset that she can't have her way with both of you anymore.

When She's Drunk

And isn't it funny everything happens when she's drunk...how many sane decisions are made under the influence??

OK, now where do I start with you? Let's start from the top of your letter.

A Relationship Is Not a Threesome

First of all, this isn't a real relationship.  A real relationship is one where TWO people share their lives with each other and there's no having to decide whether she wants to be with her BOYFRIEND or not...unless you're into that threesome type of life, but from the sounds of your letter you aren't.

She's Not Leaving Him

Even if she does leave him for you, you can't trust her.

So you really thought that you could "steal" her from Max? And from the sounds of it you are still hanging onto the fact that you think she is going to leave Max.  Let me tell you: SHE ISN'T GOING TO LEAVE HIM ANYTIME SOON SO FORGET THAT IDEA.  I know you aren't going to, but think about it: don't you think she would have left him by now if she really wanted to be with you?

No Gray Area

There is no gray in this area no matter what anybody says. You are in a relationship with someone because you want to be with THEM.  She seems to be out for a good time right now and that's it.  And she sees you when she's
available and you let her? Of course she's going to keep walking all over you because she knows she can!

Wait Until You Experience the Real Thing

So you believe that kissing a girl that is cheating on both you and Max was the single best thing in your life? My suggestion is to begin seeing other people.  If you thought that was incredible then just wait until you experience what true love really is.  

Don't Bug Her About the Apartment

About the apartment shes moving into: let her.  Don't even bother wasting your time trying to convince her to not move in.  Let her make up her own mind.  If she moves in without you bugging her to stay with you then you know that she was never really into you.  If she doesn't move in but still is seeing Max then she's still playing both of you. If she doesn't move in and begins seeing you exclusively then...well all I can say is that I hope she doesn't do to you what she did to Max.  

You Won't Change Your Ways

That's all I can really say because I don't think you are going to change your ways with her anytime soon.  I have nothing to say to her because what can I say? She doesn't want to choose.  If she wanted advice she could have written in.

Good luck and I hope you find true love one day.

-- Dakota