Dear AL,

You're Too Fast

Sounds like you are going way too fast, you have only known him a month. If you are not sure where you stand with him, then don't go jumping into a serious relationship.It takes a while to even decide whether you want to pursue anything serious, so stop and think.

Play It Cool

And honey, if he jokes about other girls to see your response, be cool when he says these things; don't give him a reaction. Show him that you're not about petty things, like trying to make each other jealous. You are better than that.

Play It Mysterious

INCONSISTENCY ALERT: How can you say "Show him you're not about ... making each other jealous" but "Play a little more hard to get"?

Sounds like he is looking to grab on and control you. Well girlfriend, play a little more hard to get – be mysterious, don't give up all your good stuff right off the bat, make him want to chase you and unlock your mystery.

Play Him Like a Puppet

Why would she want to play him like a puppet? He has shown that he is at least a good friend.

Even if you decide not to "get serious", it will be fun playing him like a wooden puppet. Remember, always be mysterious, because once all the goods are on the table, there is nothing left to do but wait on his response. Take your time and have fun doing it!

– Sandy