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Dear
Panel,
My
Plan To Marry Rich
I
am an 18 year old college student at KSU. I have always had
boyfriends who have money and share it very generously with
me. I plan to marry a very wealthy man. I am stuck between
two relationships and I don't know what to do.
Kwan:
Not Wealthy, But the Best
Kwan
is a very generous, handsome, caring, loving, honest, 21 year
old gentle man. I love him and he loves me and we plan to
get married. He is perfect, he gives me whatever I want (in
his power to give) and he's just A-1. But he is not as wealthy
as my past boyfriends so I get discouraged when I can't get
something I want due to his financial status. It is decent
but I want more money. Aside from the money he is perfect
though and I hope we'll get married when he and I establish
our careers. Kwan is having a hard time trusting me.
Don
Carlos: Wealthy, But I Don't Love Him
Don
Carlos is a very generous 37 year old man who is very established
and wealthy, and handsome. He wants to marry me also. I kinda
wanted to but that is only because I know he can give me everything
I want and more. The only thing is I don't love him like I
love Kwan (21 year old). His age doesn't so much bother me;
it's the constant guilt I feel juggling two boyfriends. Don
Carlos wants me to become his wife and live with him and he'll
take care of me and my schooling.
Amber:
My Friend Who Slept With Kwan in the 11th Grade
And
Amber is a "friend" of mine she is nice and a little
dingy at times. She slept with Kwan in the summer before 11th
grade (1998) after I had been with him in the 9th grade (1996)
(not sexually though). We fell out mainly because she didn't
tell me they had sex (Kwan told me) and I stopped being her
friend for a while. If she would have told the truth like
Kwan I would have handled things better.
Amber
Lied About Sleeping With Kwan
Kwan
and I and Amber were just friends when they slept together
but I still wished one of them would have told me as soon
as it happened. Kwan told me in the summer before 12th grade
(1999) and by then we were back together and in love. I was
angry at them both but I loved Kwan and I appreciated him
telling me the truth so I forgave him but not Amber because
when I confronted her she lied and said they didn't. She just
recently told me the truth in October of 2000.
The
Dates of the Intrigue
Kwan
and I entered a relationship in 1996, we broke up and just
became good friends in 1997. In June or July of 1998 Amber
and he slept together. In September of 1998 Kwan and I started
another relationship. In Feb. of 1999 we fell in love. In
April or May of 1999 Kwan and I made love. In June or July
of 1999 Kwan told me he and Amber slept together. I was devastated.
I broke off my friendship with Amber but me and Kwan eventually
stayed together. Feb. of 2000 Amber and I became friends again.
I
Got Pregnant by Don Carlos, Then Told Kwan It Was His
April
of 2000 I met Don Carlos and he sweep me off my feet with
expensive gifts and showered me with love. May of 2000 Don
Carlos and I had sexual intercourse and I got pregnant. July
of 2000 I had an abortion and made Kwan believe he was the
father of the child.
I
Told Kwan and Don Carlos Different Lies About My Abortion
Everything
went back to okay until Kwan found a "Dear John I'm leaving
you letter" I wrote to Don Carlos (telling him that I
was indeed pregnant w/ his baby but my mom beat me up and
pushed me down the stairs so I lost the child (another lie
because remember I had an abortion). Kwan was devastated and
outraged because he automatically knew the baby was not his
and that I had sex with another man.
I
lied to Kwan again and told him that I just told Don Carlos
that I was pregnant and lost his baby through miscarriage
so I can make my leaving him more dramatic and more understandable.
I
also lied and said that I broke up with Don Carlos in May
which I did but I got back with him of and on up until know.
But
I only had sex to Don Carlos that one time.
Kwan
Doesn't Believe My Lies and Doesn't Trust Me
Kwan
still to this day doesn't believe he is the father I can tell
and he is having a very hard time trusting me. I love him
very much and sexually I am not cheating on him but because
I still accept gifts and love from Don Carlos and make Don
Carlos believe I will be his wife I am cheating.
Amber
Impersonates Me Online
Now
back with Amber: recently she has a new guy in her life. They
are not officially together, but she would like them to be.
She constantly complains about his behaviour and lack of caring
towards her. Anyway, she talks to him on the computer acting
as though she is me just to see how far he will take it. Not
only that, she calls his house acting like me. So he thinks
I'm some weak girl tryna to push up on my friend's (Amber)
male interest but that's not me that's her talking (you get
me).
Amber
Lied About the Gift I Bought Her with Kwan's Money
Anyway
Nov. 28, 2000 he is saying the most disrespectful things.
Apparently Amber told him about how she slept with Kwan. Not
only that she told him Kwan bought her a birthday gift for
her birthday (Nov. 25, 2000) which is a lie because Kwan gives
me money and with the money Kwan gave me I bought her a b-day
gift. He didn't buy her anything but I guess she told her
new male interest that he did (which of course would sound
and look terrible so I'm wondering why she would tell him
any of that stuff).
I
Cursed Out Amber and Her Friend
So
I cursed Amber and her guy interest out. Today she calls me
apologizing and she said he was going to apologize also but
the damage is done you know. I'm going to let him know who
the real me is and tell him the truth that Amber is the one
sending him e-mail and calling him acting like me.
Should
I Be Amber's Friend If She Lies?
I'm going to exclude myself from the little games she is playing
with the e-mail and phone calls. And now I am again wondering
if I should be her friend if she's going to just tell some
boy she doesn't even go with and has constant problems with
about her sleeping with Kwan and making it seem like Kwan
is buying her things.
I
Plan To See Both Men After I Move to Miami
I'm going to be living in Miami, Florida with my sister end
of December or early January to attend another college and
both Don Carlos and Kwan will be here in Cleveland without
me for about a year and a half (of course they both plan on
coming out to visit me in Florida, and seeing me whenever
I fly back to Cleveland, Ohio).
How
Do I Regain Kwan's Trust?
So
that's my story, and I guess I'll ask my main questions below
except for the one I couldn't fit in which is "How do
I regain Kwan's trust back again because he is the one I truly
love — the only thing that is missing is more money?"
I'm
Really a Decent Person
And
hope that you will give me feedback on my story. I know I
sound terrible but I just really need some help. Aside from
all of this I'm really a decent person!
What
should I do about my relationship with the 2 men & my
friendship with Amber?
--
EMPERORKWAN
Mel,
Mr. Survivor,
and Jayne
attempt to answer this question. Charlie
refused..
