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Do I pick the guy with money, or the one I love?

Mel said:

You need to spend some alone time and figure out what you want. And until you know what it is then you can never be happy.

Jeannie responds:

Nope, I don't think she should spend any time alone...I think she should spend a LOT of time in a therapist's office. Good god, little girl, where did you hail from?

Emperor Kwan

First of all, the NAME that you chose to represent yourself in this email says powerful words. You don't have an identity of your own - so you try to identify yourself with the people around you. The rich man, the poor man and your less-than-best- friend, Amber. What you are is a simple reflection of the people around you. And I do mean simple. Your needs are so basic that I'm surprised you keep stumbling over them without realizing it.

Honestly, I'm not not going to give you advice or really comment on anything you said in your very long email. Why? Because I really don't believe a word of it. WHY should I?

You Are a Child

What I think you want is to have someone else take care of you, pamper you, and treat you like the Queen you think you are. I have some pretty harsh news for you, sweetheart. You are not a queen. What you are is a very young child in an adult's body.

The person you describe yourself to be in your letter is rude, insensitive, manipulative, lying, deceitful and money hungry. Now what I want to know is WHY you would portray yourself as such in such an open forum. I don't think you are looking for sympathy OR advice, because it's not likely that you would take it any way.

ATTENTION GETTER

Webmistress Cynth Jeannie is referring to the original question, which was in ALL CAPS before I converted it.

What I DO think you are looking for is attention. So pay CLOSE attention to what I am about to say. You are SCREAMING for attention - positive, negative, whatever, I think it all feels the same to you. You manipulate people to get what you think you want. And someday, you just may manipulate the wrong person. You are looking for attention in any way that you can get it and that is a very dangerious place to be.

It's called KARMA, my dear.

We are all responsible for our actions, our words, our thoughts, our feelings. Most of all, we are responsible for the way we treat others...the way we show ourselves to others, and how we view the rest of the world. The old saying, "Do unto others and you have them do unto you"...Well, sweetheart, unless you stop doing to others what you've been doing, you are in for a real shock.

Wake up, take a good harsh look at yourself...if you can even FIND yourself anywhere. If you can't, then you need some serious help.

-- Jeannie

 

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