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Dear EMPERORKWAN,

The first thing I thought about when I read your problem was - WOW!!! Well, maybe my advice will help because I all I have to say is "GIRL YOU GOT PROBLEMS!!!"

Why Think of Marriage Now?

Now, you may be an adult but are still fairly young. But that brings up my next point -- why are you such in a rush to get married?!? Is your YBF (younger boyfriend) forcing you to get married? Why are you even thinking about it now? You aren't even sure who you want and you're thinking about spending the rest of your life with one of them?!?

None of You Are Relationship Material

I disagree. YBF never CHEATED on this bitch, and he was HONEST when the time came!

If you ask me – none of the guys are relationship material. Not that you are also – there is nothing wrong with that, but if you are treating one guy as the only one and leading the other on, you aren't any better than someone who cheats.

I don't think she deserves the option to choose who she wants more.

That leads to my next question: What do you want more?!?

What Are Your Priorities?

Is money or decency more important to you? One way to figure that out is if you ask yourself "Which truly makes me happier?" If it's money, go with the OBF (older boyfriend). If not, go with the YBF. If you still can't figure it out, LEAVE THEM BOTH!!!

Get Away and Save Your Sanity

In my opinion, both aren't worth it. One slept with your friend and the other is trying to get with a young girl (you). Doesn't that make you think?!? You need to get away from everything to clear your head.

Too late.

Your confusion may cost you your sanity. And no guy is worth that risk.

You Lied

YBF doesn't trust you and he shouldn't. Besides lying to him, you are still seeing OBF. So he wasn't a saint either but doesn't that tell you something about your "great relationship"? Why don't you just break free from both and make a fresh start?!? You have gotten yourself into trouble and I think that you need to make yourself HAPPY first!!!

Your Only "Friend"?

As for your friend - if you can call her that, just leave it be...If you two were really meant to stay friends than eventually you'll find a way to become that again. Especially since you do have some sort of history together, however messed up it is.

Spend Some Time Alone

Nope, I don't think she should spend any time alone...I think she should spend a LOT of time in a therapist's office.

Basically, all I have to say is forget about all of this; you should never run away from your problems but this is different. You need to spend some alone time and figure out what you want. And until you know what it is then you can never be happy. Hopefully everything works out for you....

Hope I've helped,

Mel

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