Dear Commitment Issues,

You're Normal

Your dilemma is all too familiar and not very unusual at all. It is only natural that being put into a new situation would make you uncomfortable and hesitant.

Let Go of Your Fears

Wait; there's a middle road. She can take baby steps.

Unfortunately,the only way to get over these fears is to let go and allow yourself to care about this guy unconditionally. Realize that doing so will be putting yourself into a vulnerable position and allowing the potential for getting hurt.

Give It a Chance

I agree. It is better to risk than regret.

HOWEVER the best way to discover the beauty of a relationship and all that being in one has to offer, is to give it a chance and try it out. If you find yourself in too deep or unhappy you have the ability to end it but sometimes you just have to give things a chance. Remember (as cliché as it sounds): you never know unless you try.

His Issues

It sounds like maybe this boy's life isn't all happiness and good times. There is a chance that that could mean that your relationship is bound to go through stages where there are issues, tensions, or problems. Maybe not directly related to the two of you but indirectly they will probably affect your relationship. These are other things you definitely want to consider before getting into a relationship

My First Relationship

My first relationship started with a guy that I worked with and it went along the same path that yours is going. We ended up together for over a year and i learned more from that relationship than I ever could have imagined. There were good times and bad times and some very tough times. There were moments when i couldn't believe i had allowed myself to be so vulnerable and others when it all seemed worth it.

Risk and Reward

Remember that with any relationship there is good and bad and sometimes the potential for rocky times is there from the beginning- that becomes your prerogative- are you willing to risk some unstable times in exchange for all the incredible and great times that you could also potentially share with this guy?

Give It a Chance

Getting involved for the first time, is in itself very confusing, new, exciting, and scary at the same time. I say give it a chance. Make sure you communicate with each other and know what each of you is thinking and how each of you feels from the beginning. Tell him about your reservations and listen to his- honesty is and always will be the best policy.

The best things in life come when you least expect them. Sometimes you just have to go with it. Take risks because life is all about experiences and you don't want to have regrets down the line.

-- Foxy