Dear Confused,

Physical Attraction Is Not Enough

Bull! Attraction is everything.

NO, it's absolutely not true. There is so much more to a good relationship than a strong physical attraction. It can help initially, but in the long run, the things that matter are a lot deeper: your common interests, the way he treats you, the way you feel when you are around him, and most
importantly, the way you feel about HIM.

When Looks Vanish

It is not an either/or situation. EVERYTHING about the person determines whether you feel attracted. And attraction is everything.

Ask yourself this question: If your partner was involved in a serious accident involving fire and was left with serious third degree burns that would scar him for the rest of his life, would you love him any less? Do you like being around HIM, or just his face?

You Followed Your Heart

Yes, it's true that there must be some form of physical attraction, but from your question, you sound like you don't believe he's unattractive, he's just not the type of person you would usually date. You're already on the right track– you've stayed true to your heart and you're still with him even though he isn't your usual "type".

Sit down and really think over what the relationship means to YOU, not to other people, and I think that you'll be able to answer your own question.

Good luck!

-- Karmela