Dear Confused,

Uncommon sense says don't listen to silly things.

What Is Attractive?

Why make it so complicated? You find a person ATTRACTIVE if you are ATTRACTED to them.

Many people have told you something true. Yeah, I guess if you don't find the person you're with attractive, then that's kind of bad. But what the heck does that mean? Physically attractive? Mentally attractive? Emotionally attractive? Weighted average of all of them? Or does it also imply that you find the person ugly?

Familiarity Breeds Contempt

Haven't you heard of the reverse of this effect? That someone you find extremely attractive at first, has his flaws magnified over the years so that he becomes repulsive "eventually"? This can be caused by things like snoring, braying laughter, leaving the cap off the toothbrush, etc.

A Lefty Syllogism

So, if both these effects are true, since everyone is either attractive or not attractive to you, then there can be no one who is suitable.

Obviously, a little "un"common sense has to be used. If you love someone, then don't listen to silly things that "many" people say.

-- Lefty