Dear Panel,

I am 20 years old and I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and she has yet to understand that I am a man.

I used to look at Internet porn; she found out, got pissed, blackmailed me with sex, so I stopped.

I now only look at men's magazines (not porn) and stuff like that. She still says that that hurts her, she says that I look at that kind of stuff because she is not enough for me, I really don't get it. I find the most amazing and beautiful woman on earth and I love her with all my heart, and what I feel for her is not even close to the feeling I get from looking at these pictures but I do enjoy them.

Yes, we all look at beautiful women. But that's not the same as needing pornography.

She is 19 years old and I really don't know how to explain that I am a man and I get these feelings because of hormones. I love to look at beautiful women. I really need help this has been bothering me, I really don't want to feel that looking at other woman is a sin because I know it's not.

What do I say to her?

Just so you know: I never do this when I am with her, only alone.

Thanks
arie

 

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