Dear arie,

She Should Understand Men and Porn

She shouldn't feel threatened that you look at men's magazines, watch porn on the Internet or on the TV. She should understand that some men do enjoy looking at things like this.

That's exactly what it means. He is cheating on his girlfriend by reading the magazines.

This doesn't mean that they don't find their mate attractive or want to leave their mate for one of the girls in the magazines.

Help Her Understand You

Nice thought, but he will not be able to change how she views things.

You should try to sit down with her and try to find out why she feels threatened by you looking at porn. You should in return try to help her understand what you find so enjoyable in porn. Sit down with her and watch a porn flick or look at magazine and show her that there is nothing wrong for looking at it. In fact, there are a lot of women out there that look at porn as well.

Make Her Feel Loved

That's not the issue! He's sending her a negative message by watching porn

If she is saying that you look at porn or magazines because she is not enough for you, then you need to make her feel as loved and admired as you have stated.

Make Her Your Porn Star

You don't need to give them that kind of info.

You should try taping yourselves (have your own lil' personal porn flick for you two to watch), or take pictures (use a Polaroid camera) of her posing nude or in lingerie and look at them with her or when you're by yourself. That way she has no way of feeling threatened and she would have a better understanding of the "sex" world.

Men and Women Who Enjoy Porn Are Not Sinners

Just because someone does not enjoy these materials does not mean that they enjoy sexuality less than those who do.

Men & women both read "naughty" magazines and watch porn and they are not sinners for doing so. They are people like everyone else, they just enjoy sex and nudity to a more fuller extent then other people do.

I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you.

Best Wishes,
Sabrina =-)