Survivor Answers:

Dear arie,

Normal Guys Seem To Like Being Teased

Sounds like you might be in the normal range for lots of guys. I know for me that looking at pictures of pretty naked women doesn't "do it" any more, so I just don't. I don't like to be teased, and that is exactly what that is to me. Many men would disagree.

I can answer for him: YES. He is cheating on his girlfriend with these fantasies.

Does it mean you love her less or desire her less? Only you can answer that question for yourself.

Simply Admit You Like To Look

What do you say to her? Hopefully, not "I'll stop", and then hide it. I suggest that you stop hiding behind colorful phrases and justifications about why, and just admit you like to look, and get on with it.

Is It an Obsession, or an Occasional Thing?

You don't say if looking at either the 'Net or the mags is a daily obsession or a some-time, past-time thing. One would hope that it is a once-in-a-while thing.

Frequency is not the issue. I want to know if he is using it for masturbation material.

An occasional fantasy is just that, but a daily viewing might get off into the realm of obsession, and that, my friend, is not good. I think it is very thoughtful of you to do keep it away and out of her face; some men I know could learn from that practice.

It's not ALL women – it's people with low self worth.

She'll Never Understand; It's a Woman Thing

Will she ever understand your "need?"

I disagree because I know many men who would feel a little uncomfortable knowing that their significant other was drooling and pleasuring herself with photos of other men.

Probably not; it's not an age thing, it's a woman thing.

My wife is in her late 40's and still doesn't understand why men are like that, thinks it is disrespectful to woman in general and a slap in the face to wives and girlfriends at all times.

I Tried Internet Porn

By the way, I went through the Internet porn thing and even collected thousands of pictures on CD. I finally got bored with it all and erased them. To me, pictures, movies and the like are just teases.

Photos Don't Make Nice Noises

I prefer the real thing, even if it's just a look at my wife naked in the shower. I have never in my life known a woman who was capable of folding in and out in 2 or 3 places like a centerfold, and a picture is not warm, nor does it make noises when touched in the right spots, even if YOU do when you're viewing them.

-- Mr. Survivor

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