Dear
Panel,
I
am a supportive, giving, loyal, dedicated, passionate, loving
person.
Shannon
is a great person, very similar to myself.
I
Postponed the Wedding and Moved Out
We
were supposed to get married. We lived together, were best
of friends. We ran into some tough times and were not working
problems out. I wanted to postpone the wedding and was told
if I am not ready now I never will be. I moved out and we
did not speak but once a week.
We
Reunited, But She Blamed Me
We
both realized we missed and needed each other. I went back
to try to work things out. The first few days were fine.
She
then started holding things against me. Shannon made me feel
like it only happened to her and not us. She made me feel
like I was a bastard and that is what her family thought of
me as well for hurting them all.
She
Apologized After 3 Months of Beating Me with Guilt
I
tried to understand, for the most part I did. Some days she
would tell me she needed me in her life other days she would
tell me she did not know if I was worth it. She beat me up
pretty good for three months. I had enough guilt of my own
as it was. I had enough and said I could not do it anymore.
I tried to snap her out of it, nothing worked.
Recently I called to wish her happy holidays, thought of her.
After all the time we were together and as close as we were
I wanted to let her know she was thought of. Since then she
has phoned twice and tells me how much I mean to her and that
she loves me and does not want to live without me. Also that
she is so sorry she played games. She asked me to not to let
her live with a mistake the rest of her life.
Should
I Let Her Back in my Life?
I
don't know what to do. I miss her, but I am so scared of being
beat up and games played. She promises and guarantees and
is very sincere and passionate about what she says. Please
help me; my heart tells me to have her back in my life my
mind tells me to give it some time. I told her I can't, I
am very angry and hurt still and would not want to subject
to her to that same thing she put me through. What should
I do ?
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Anonymous
Mensch,
Gillian,
Charlie,
and Patra
answer this question.
