Dear Panel,

I'm Getting Married

I am Mark aged 27. Been in couple of long term relationships. Now engaged to my girlfriend. Due to get married in May 2001. I have never been one to play the field. And never had a one night stands or affairs before.

Zoe Will Be a Good Wife, But Our Love Life Is Boring

Zoe is my fiancée. She was having a terrible life when I met her 3 years ago. I managed to get her to move from her hometown, and give her a house and my group of friends. And she now has a really good job and loves life. I care so much for Zoe, but our love life has become boring slightly. Don't know why. She is very dependant on me, which is not good. Zoe would make a very good wife though. I know that much.

Emma Is Single

Emma is a girl I have known for about 6-7 months. Got to know her properly about 6 weeks ago. She is 24 and is single at the moment. She has had quite a few relationships unlike myself.

Went to festival with about 10 people including Zoe and Emma. Things were cool. I got on really well with Emma. We got close but nothing happened.

Couple of weeks later on my birthday, I ended up getting off with her. And a week after that slept with her.

Emma Is All I Think About

I keep going to see her every week and things are really cool with her. Trouble is, I cannot do the lying thing very well and feel worse than ever before. Just meeting Emma has made me think again about getting married. All I can think about at the moment is Emma.

See, I really care loads for Zoe, but fancy and enjoy Emma.

Do I tell Zoe?

Should I tell Zoe everything about Emma, to be honest for once?

-- mark

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