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Dear Tyler,
It's About Trust
Trust is, and has always been, that which makes or breaks a relationship.
You Lied, Too
First off, not to be judgemental at all, but how much better is
it to lie to her about you being at the mall and seeing her than
it is for her to lie to you about not being there? Sure, you may
have found out she lied, but so did you. This is one of those situations
where two wrongs may not make a right.
She Broke a Promise
To bias myself slightly to your side for a second, I should say
that if she agreed to not go to the mall on Sundays but did, she
broke a promise and promises aren't something that should be broken.
You Can't Force Her To Not Go to the Mall
To bias myself to her side for a second: You probably shouldn't
have forced her to make that promise. If you trust her, there's
no reason that the guys at the mall should be a problem. It's the
frickin' Twenty First Century, man. Telling someone not to go somewhere
or not to do something that is as tame as going to the mall is only
going to make them do it in secret. And that is where more problems
start.
Stop Doubting Her So You Don't Have To Worry
Now as to the lingering doubt as to when/if she's lying to you,
my advice is to try not to think about it so much. Doubting her
is just the same as not having trust in her – only "doubting"
is one word.
If She Lied About Something Important
If you do however, have strong evidence that she lied to you about
something that has any consequence, confront her about it with as
much REAL evidence as possible (well don't "confront"
her, talk to her).
Lying To Trap a Lie Is Hypocrasy
Don't lie to trap a lie. It just makes you look hypocritical.
– Buddy
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