Do You Want To Be Involved with Their Son?

Not that all people with psychiatric and alcohol problems are bad (their problems are, but the people themselves are usually not) but – do you REALLY want to be buddies with them knowing they have these problems that have caused them to treat their OWN SON so poorly?

Don't Force It

I think you will just have to let them learn to love you on your merits rather than force the issue. Which means, allow your boyfriend to speak glowingly of you, but don't force time with them unless he wants to.

He Should Prove He Is an Adult

Growing up sometimes means not doing what your parents want you to – that is what childhood is for. Let your boyfriend prove he is an adult – again, you can't force the issue – by making up his own mind about your relationship.

Good luck, it sounds like a snarled, tangled mess.