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Confused,
Take
a Risk
Making a change in a relationship is like taking
a risk, but just getting into the relationship was a risk, too,
so I hope you are willing to take the risk I'm going to suggest.
You
Need More Interests
My suggestion is that you talk to your boyfriend
and say that while you love him and enjoy spending time with him,
at 16 you need to have many interests that you are pursuing, not
just romantic ones. You need friends, schoolwork, hobbies, etc.
So, from now on you can only see him one or two evenings a week
and once or twice on the weekends. And you will call him every day
but only talk for a limited time (maybe 45 minutes?). If you go
to the same school, maybe have lunch with different friends or find
ways to see other people, too.
Take
Time for Other Relationships
The reason I'm suggesting this is because ALL the
relationships in our life are important, not just the romantic ones.
And the other relationships keep us happy, healthy, and stable,
and growing. Your boyfriend might actually feel relieved; although
people's tolerance for being with one person vary, as do the number
of people we need in our lives, NO ONE can be happy spending all
of their time with one person.
I bet you will find you are much happier during
your time with him if there is less of it and it is balanced with
other relationships.
– Judith
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