Dear "Confused & Angry" and "Equally Confused & Angry",

Move Out

You two have a great deal of anger and resentment built into your relationship. I suggest that one of you move out.

Why aren't you saying break up? I'll say it: They should just break up.

I'm not saying that you should break up, but you seem to have lost the sense of love, trust, comfort, and excitement that you once felt for each other. Now it's just a game.

Moving out will give you two time to find yourselves independent of the other person. Moving out will allow you two to see each other in only romantic contexts and not be burdened by a marriage-like relationship without the "contract" that marriage brings.

Act Consciously

I also don't think either one of you is acting very consciously. What were you two doing having one-night stands? What was it about? Why can't you work things out inside your relationship rather than seeking instant gratification outside the relationship?

High School Behavior

I agree – they ARE too young.

If you don't have answers to these questions, then maybe you two aren't really right for each other. The whole she did it, so I'll do it thing is really high school.

Grow up, break up, or figure it out.

Good luck,

Charlie