|
Dear Harry,
This Is New to Me
Hmm. I'll have to say this is a new situation to me.
In a way, it almost sounds like her bottom line is the classic
'I think we should see other people.' It almost sounds like she
wants to break up, but has some reserves against it.
Show Her What She's Missing
Try to show her what she "isn't" missing. Have her talk
to girls who have dated some of the 'bad boys.' See if you can show
her that she's only after unwanted pain. Tell her your feelings
on this matter, and make sure she understands them.
An Easy Way To Let You Down
However, there is the possibility that she's trying to break up,
but doesn't know an easy way of letting you down. Just because you
love her doesn't always mean you'll end up with her (trust me, I
know). She might want the flings because they're relationships without
any commitment.
It might be that she doesn't want to commit right now; but it might
also be an excuse that she's trying to back out without hurting
your feelings. I won't lie and say this isn't a possibility –
it could happen. I also won't lie and say it won't hurt if things
don't work out, but the hurting does fade over time.
Tell Her What She Wants
Your best course of action is to sit down and talk with her. Ask
her to be completely honest with you, and tell her what she really
wants from a relationship, from you, how she feels towards you,
and anything you can think of that will help you understand her
stance on this.
Remember: communication is key in any relationship. You might
not want to be blunt, but it's a good way to communicate a potentially
serious problem.
Good luck to you.
– Indigo
|
