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Dear Looking for Stats,
Depends on Your Gender
I was a little worried for you until I reread your question and
saw that you were a guy.
In my experience, women are much more liable to say this and really
mean "I need a closer look" than a man. I wouldn't take
it as a good sign if a man said this, but I think it is a sign of
maturity for a woman not to jump into a relationship.
Once your heart takes a couple of beatings, as most people have
by the time they are in their early thirties, you tend to try to
inch into the pool of love with a lot of caution. That getting swept
of your feet thing can take a lot out of you. Frankly, I equate
it with bungee jumping – it's for kids!
Women Are Just Cautious
Anyway, I think there is a possibility that the women you are attracted
to are just cautious. And I can't emphasize enough that there really
is nothing like being romantically involved with a person with whom
you are friends first. It just requires a little more patience.
I Had Just "Wanted To Be Friends"
Incidently, my current boyfriend and I were friends first for a
couple of months before we started dating. I wanted to just be friends
because when we met I was still getting over my ex. It's really
kind of funny because he did go from "being there for me"
to "just being there", just like Seinfeld!
Well, there's your answer, don't give up!
Good luck!!
– Patra
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